From the moment your child is born you realize that you will never have enough time with them. Now I know there are house moms that will read this (mainly my wife) and think to themselves “Time with my child is great but I always can use a break”.
For those of us that do not have the option of staying home with our children the thought of missing moments and losing time is unrelenting.
Maybe I am being a bit presumptuous. I have heard countless women talk about how uninvolved their husband was in raising their children. The tone used when stating this “fact” is normally one of condescension. I wonder to myself if their husbands “neglect” was by choice or did they fall victim to the fleeting nature of time? Did their responsibilities make in nearly impossible to be as involved in their child’s life as they and their wives desired?
I guess in the end the most important person in this equation is the child. What is the child’s perception? When I was young I always wondered why my dad seemed to never make my weeknight baseball games, as an adult I realize I was lucky he made as many as he did.
Parenting is difficult job. Balance is essential and compromise is inevitable. I know my wife’s job as a stay home mom is tougher than my job as a provider, but at the end of the day both jobs are equally vital. The one difference is my wife can choose not to be a “stay at home” mom where as I can not choose to stop providing for my family.
I yearn for more time at home with my family but I must resolve to make the best out of the time I have.
For those of us that do not have the option of staying home with our children the thought of missing moments and losing time is unrelenting.
Maybe I am being a bit presumptuous. I have heard countless women talk about how uninvolved their husband was in raising their children. The tone used when stating this “fact” is normally one of condescension. I wonder to myself if their husbands “neglect” was by choice or did they fall victim to the fleeting nature of time? Did their responsibilities make in nearly impossible to be as involved in their child’s life as they and their wives desired?
I guess in the end the most important person in this equation is the child. What is the child’s perception? When I was young I always wondered why my dad seemed to never make my weeknight baseball games, as an adult I realize I was lucky he made as many as he did.
Parenting is difficult job. Balance is essential and compromise is inevitable. I know my wife’s job as a stay home mom is tougher than my job as a provider, but at the end of the day both jobs are equally vital. The one difference is my wife can choose not to be a “stay at home” mom where as I can not choose to stop providing for my family.
I yearn for more time at home with my family but I must resolve to make the best out of the time I have.
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Your slackin on your blogging..
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