Having children has a way of changing your priorities.
I never intended to leave New York to attend school. The offer of an academic scholarship lured me to Washington DC. In retrospect I’m glad it happened. For someone like me, with close family relationships, staying close to home can hinder growth. The man I am today is directly related to my experience isolated from family in the metro DC area.
Now, as a husband and a father, I no longer think isolation from my extended family is necessary for my development. In truth, I believe the distance is now detrimental to my immediate family.
My wife was raised about five minutes from where we live. She has an abundance of local relatives. With the exception of my brother-in-law, shout out to Naz, we hardly see her family. This is not entirely their fault as we do not make a concerted effort to socialize. The problem is; when my wife and I want to catch a movie and we can not find a babysitter, and we live within 10 miles of a few dozen relatives, it becomes hard to justify staying in this locale for “family” reasons.
So now I find myself wondering if it is time to move back to New York. My wife would embrace relocation to NY as she contemplated the move before we even met. The little bloke would miss his uncle, but I’m sure it wouldn’t take much arm twisting for uncle Naz to visit regularly. The bloke would be near his beloved Grandma GG and she would be more than eager to keep him as my wife and I have some “Us” time.
One thing is certain; if we decide to relocate it will not be as easy as typing words in a blog.
I never intended to leave New York to attend school. The offer of an academic scholarship lured me to Washington DC. In retrospect I’m glad it happened. For someone like me, with close family relationships, staying close to home can hinder growth. The man I am today is directly related to my experience isolated from family in the metro DC area.
Now, as a husband and a father, I no longer think isolation from my extended family is necessary for my development. In truth, I believe the distance is now detrimental to my immediate family.
My wife was raised about five minutes from where we live. She has an abundance of local relatives. With the exception of my brother-in-law, shout out to Naz, we hardly see her family. This is not entirely their fault as we do not make a concerted effort to socialize. The problem is; when my wife and I want to catch a movie and we can not find a babysitter, and we live within 10 miles of a few dozen relatives, it becomes hard to justify staying in this locale for “family” reasons.
So now I find myself wondering if it is time to move back to New York. My wife would embrace relocation to NY as she contemplated the move before we even met. The little bloke would miss his uncle, but I’m sure it wouldn’t take much arm twisting for uncle Naz to visit regularly. The bloke would be near his beloved Grandma GG and she would be more than eager to keep him as my wife and I have some “Us” time.
One thing is certain; if we decide to relocate it will not be as easy as typing words in a blog.
1 comment:
dude. please. come. DPT. but seriously, I will stay in NY if you move back. that would be so hot.
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